The Self is a state where a person has no objectives, plans, aims, desires, hopes, wishes, expectations, anticipations, cravings, ego, and has learnt to act spontaneously, unpremeditedely and nonchalantly at all times. He therefore has next to no attachments: I say 'next to' because it is near impossible to lose all one's attachments on account of the fact that one's mind is also within the body-brain complex attending to the mundane things that one does to keep one's life going, such as bathing to keep clean, brushing one's teeth, cooking, cleaning, wearing clean clothes, going to the shops, driving a motor vehicle with due care and attention, taking care of the family and so one: one has responsibilities in Nature. In Hindi it is known as kartavya. So one has to care, and one cannot detach oneself from caring for without that living is unsustainable in Brahma-Nature. In Vishista-advaita one immerses oneself in Creation for it is the ultimate form of bhakti (devotion to the Creator represented in one's psyche as the Paramatman.
The residual attachments that one has as outlined makes it very difficult indeed for a yogi to realise that the Self is the same as Paramatman with which it is in union, and these moments of union only dawn on one when one wakes up from proper sleep during the morning or during the rest of the day if one takes naps.
This truth makes one takes righteous actions of karma (fulfilling one's responsiblities and doing righteous actions as dharma, and is the final Realisation.
I will never relinquish any degree of my true Nature as the Self because I have realised that it is in union with Paramatman with the truth path charting me to my next action (karma in sanatan dharma) and towards my destiny.